Make handling of federation Authorization header (more) compliant with RFC7230 (#12774)

The main differences are:
- values with delimiters (such as colons) should be quoted, so always
  quote the origin, since it could contain a colon followed by a port
  number
- should allow more than one space after "X-Matrix"
- quoted values with backslash-escaped characters should be unescaped
- names should be case insensitive