Replace IN usage with helper funcs

synapse/storage/deviceinbox.py

synapse/storage/devices.py

synapse/storage/event_federation.py

synapse/storage/events.py

synapse/storage/events_bg_updates.py

synapse/storage/events_worker.py

synapse/storage/presence.py

synapse/storage/receipts.py

synapse/storage/roommember.py

synapse/storage/search.py

synapse/storage/user_erasure_store.py