debian package: symlink to python-3.X (#4433)

In the debian package, make the virtualenv symlink python to /usr/bin/python3.X
rather than /usr/bin/python3. Also make sure we depend on the right python3.x
package.

This might help a bit with subtle failures when people install a package from
the wrong distro (https://github.com/matrix-org/synapse/issues/4431).