Check *all* auth events for room id and rejection (#11009)

This fixes a bug where we would accept an event whose `auth_events` include
rejected events, if the rejected event was shadowed by another `auth_event`
with same `(type, state_key)`.

The approach is to pass a list of auth events into
`check_auth_rules_for_event` instead of a dict, which of course means updating
the call sites.

This is an extension of #10956.