* Check support room has only two users

* Create 8728.bugfix

* Update synapse/server_notices/server_notices_manager.py

Co-authored-by: Erik Johnston <erik@matrix.org>

Co-authored-by: Erik Johnston <erik@matrix.org>

The idea here is that if an instance persists an event via the replication HTTP API it can return before we receive that event over replication, which can lead to races where code assumes that persisting an event immediately updates various caches (e.g. current state of the room).

Most of Synapse doesn't hit such races, so we don't do the waiting automagically, instead we do so where necessary to avoid unnecessary delays. We may decide to change our minds here if it turns out there are a lot of subtle races going on.

People probably want to look at this commit by commit.

Fixes #6815

Before figuring out whether we should alert a user on MAU, we call get_notice_room_for_user to get some info on the existing server notices room for this user. This function, if the room doesn't exist, creates it and invites the user in it. This means that, if we decide later that no server notice is needed, the user gets invited in a room with no message in it. This happens at every restart of the server, since the room ID returned by get_notice_room_for_user is cached.

This PR fixes that by moving the inviting bit to a dedicated function, that's only called when the server actually needs to send a notice to the user. A potential issue with this approach is that the room that's created by get_notice_room_for_user doesn't match how that same function looks for an existing room (i.e. it creates a room that doesn't have an invite or a join for the current user in it, so it could lead to a new room being created each time a user syncs), but I'm not sure this is a problem given it's cached until the server restarts, so that function won't run very often.

It also renames get_notice_room_for_user into get_or_create_notice_room_for_user to make what it does clearer.

Currently we rely on `current_state_events` to figure out what rooms a
user was in and their last membership event in there. However, if the
server leaves the room then the table may be cleaned up and that
information is lost. So lets add a table that separately holds that
information.

probably should have done this in the first place, like @turt2live suggested.

Server Notices use a special room which the user can't dismiss. They are
created on demand when some other bit of the code calls send_notice.

(This doesn't actually do much yet becuse we don't call send_notice anywhere)