This implements a more standard API for instantiating a homeserver and
moves some of the dependency injection into the test suite.

More concretely this stops using `setattr` on all `kwargs` passed to `HomeServer`.

A couple of changes of significance:

 * remove the `_last_ack < federation_position` condition, so that
   updates will still be correctly processed after restart

 * Correctly wire up send_federation_ack to the right class.