The expected use case is to suppress MAU limiting on small instances

This is in preparation for having multiple data stores that offer
different functionality, e.g. splitting out state or event storage.

* Fix presence timeouts when synchrotron restarts.

Handling timeouts would fail if there was an external process that had
timed out, e.g. a synchrotron restarting. This was due to a couple of
variable name typoes.

Fixes #3715.

This fixed the weirdness of 400 vs 404 as http status code in the case
the filter id is not known by the server.
As e.g. matrix-js-sdk expects 404 to catch this situation this leads
to unwanted behaviour.

Hopefully this will fix the occasional failures we were seeing in the room directory.

The problem was that events are not necessarily persisted (and `current_state_delta_stream` updated) in the same order as their stream_id. So for instance current_state_delta 9 might be persisted *before* current_state_delta 8. Then, when the room stats saw stream_id 9, it assumed it had done everything up to 9, and never came back to do stream_id 8.

We can solve this easily by only processing up to the stream_id where we know all events have been persisted.

to agree with latest version of the MSC

Use room_stats and room_state for room directory search

We have set the max retry interval to a value larger than a postgres or
sqlite int can hold, which caused exceptions when updating the
destinations table.

To fix postgres we need to change the column to a bigint, and for sqlite
we lower the max interval to 2**62 (which is still incredibly long).

Fetching a censored redactions caused an exception due to the code
expecting redactions to have a `redact` key, which redacted redactions
don't have.

Fixes #5905

If email or msisdn verification aren't supported, let's stop advertising them
for registration.

Fixes #6100.

Pull the checkers out to their own classes, rather than having them lost in a
massive 1000-line class which does everything.

This is also preparation for some more intelligent advertising of flows, as per #6100

because, frankly, it looked like it was written by an axe-murderer.

This should be a non-functional change, except that where `m.login.dummy` was
previously advertised *before* `m.login.terms`, it will now be advertised
afterwards. AFAICT that should have no effect, and will be more consistent with
the flows that involve passing a 3pid.